How I stay sober today

I have been sober in AA over half my life.

Alcohol did not cause my alcoholism.

I was born restless, irritable and discontented and still am.

I have only a daily reprieve based on the maintenance and continuing development of my spiritual condition.

Here’s how I stay sober today:

(1) I don’t drink alcohol. I have a fatal medical condition that is not detectable by medical science and that only a daily spiritual awakening can treat. I am not a bad person. I am not responsible for my alcoholism, but I am responsible for its treatment.

(2) I try to use all of the program in all of my affairs on a daily basis: all of the literature, the Twelve Steps, the Twelve Traditions, the Twelve Concepts, the Three Legacies, commitment to home groups and meetings, using a sponsor and/or serving as a sponsor, and carrying the message inside and outside the program.

(3) I try to follow Bill and Bob’s example: meeting with other alcoholics on an equal basis and drawing on assistance from inside and outside the program.

(4) With my two feet solidly planted in AA, because I am one of the minority of people who cannot safely drink, even though I look like a member of the majority who can, I remain open to assistance from whatever direction it comes, just as the first 100 members did in the four and a half years before AA became known as AA.

Dan F.

Dan was born in San Francisco in 1939 and grew up in the City in the 1940s and 1950s. Alcohol was not a problem. He went to Notre Dame des Victoires, St. Monica’s, St. Ignatius, and Santa Clara. Despite the loss of his beloved father in 1949, he became successful in school academically and in sports, served as President of the San Francisco Youth Association, and was named ‘Teenager of the Week’ in one of the San Francisco newspapers in 1957. However, with his increasing feeling of loneliness and ‘being different’ despite his outward success, alcohol started to become ‘his best friend’ at age 24. Thirteen years later, he crash-landed into AA at a noontime meeting near the White House in Washington, D.C. on December 7th, 1976 and took his last drink the next day.  Today, he and his wife Kate live in Europe and do service in the first164yp AA group with five weekly online voice and voice/video meetings:


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